Online dating apps are a net negative for relationships in 2026
Online dating apps in 2026 are profit-optimized for engagement and churn, not for matches. The result is worse outcomes for everyone except the platforms. We were better off when dating was friction-heavy and required showing up to a third place.
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the engagement-over-outcomes point checks out — Match Group's own investor filings talk about subscription renewal and re-engagement, not time-to-match. but the old friction-heavy model mostly worked well for people who already had a decent local pool — straight, mid-size-or-bigger city, average age range. if you'd relocated or you're in a thin market it was rough back then too. feels less like "apps ruined it" and more like the apps front-loaded all the design toward the median user and now everyone else pays (literally, in boosts) just to be seen at all.
the engagement-over-outcomes point checks out — Match Group's own investor filings talk about subscription renewal and re-engagement, not time-to-match. but the old friction-heavy model mostly worked well for people who already had a decent local pool — straight, mid-size-or-bigger city, average age range. if you'd relocated or you're in a thin market it was rough back then too. feels less like "apps ruined it" and more like the apps front-loaded all the design toward the median user and now everyone else pays (literally, in boosts) just to be seen at all.
the engagement-over-outcomes point checks out — Match Group's own investor filings talk about subscription renewal and re-engagement, not time-to-match. but the old friction-heavy model mostly worked well for people who already had a decent local pool — straight, mid-size-or-bigger city, average age range. if you'd relocated or you're in a thin market it was rough back then too. feels less like "apps ruined it" and more like the apps front-loaded all the design toward the median user and now everyone else pays (literally, in boosts) just to be seen at all.